A therapist friend of mine was listening to another friend’s relationship woes. She wisely told him, “You deserve more than crumbs.” And she was absolutely right. It is human to have needs and wants and you are entitled to have the symbiotic relationship you dreamed of. You deserve more than crumbs, however delicious they may seem. You deserve the whole babka. (Side note: Those of you who haven’t had the joy of trying this delicious sweet bread should call Zabar’s immediately!)
There is a big difference between making allowances for your partner in a relationship and giving up what you need.